Sometimes things are off in a relationship just because of stress or
because some catastrophe happens in your life. Other times, there are
signs that you’re not in love anymore, and it’s over. If you’re not
sure, read the following and be honest with yourself:
#1 – Bad Breath & Body Odor
Remember when you were so crazy about your significant other that
morning breath seemed endearing, even cute? Does his/her breath make you
roll over and sprint out of bed now? If she/he’s not freshly showered
are you disgusted by his/her scent? Love has got to be at least 80%
smell, so repulsion is a telltale sign of soured love.
#2 – Grammar Teacher
Do you find yourself correcting his/her grammar when you used to
chalk it up to colloquial speech, even slang? You know you’re not your
lover’s teacher so take and deeper look to see what’s really up.
#3 – Pretending to Listen
Is it impossible to stay focused on what your significant other is
saying without your mind drifting off while you only pretend to be
listening? This is the person whose every word you used to hang on. You
can’t pretend to be attentive forever. What’s really going on?
#4 – No Sex, Please
Do you dread going to sleep, worried your lover will want some
loving? Do you cringe when he/she touches you or tries to snuggle? Stop
making excuses about stress or the fact that sex doesn’t mean very much
to you anymore. This is not supposed to be a platonic friendship. If you
feel repelled by the person closest to you, you’ve probably fallen out
of love.
#5 – Senseless Irritation
Is your partner getting on your nerves watching TV, getting a snack
or just simply breathing? Does he/she have to wear those old jeans
again? Arrgh! You don’t have a reason to be so annoyed but if you’re no
longer in love and are still in each other’s space, you’ll find yourself
irritated at your significant other without any logical reason.
#6 – No Respect
When you fall out of love, your perception of your lover changes
completely. The person you once saw as totally creative suddenly seems
like an idiot. If you thought he/she was financially responsible, he/she
suddenly seems cheap. When respect is gone, bank on the fact that
you’ve fallen out of love.
#7 – No Eye Contact
If it’s unbearable to look your lover in the eye but you’re not
guilty of anything per say, chances are you are afraid of being found
out for not feeling a fuzzy connection. It’s one thing not to stare into
each other’s eyes like you did when you first met, but avoiding eye
contact usually means you’re trying to hide the fact that you’re not
really all there.
#8 -The Butterflies Have Flown Away
While it’s true that the butterflies may settle after a while in a
relationship, if you’re not feeling at all elated or giddy when you see
your partner, it’s a problem. Love gives you a lift. If that’s not
happening, you’re probably not in love.
#9 – Seeking Attention
Are you losing weight, wearing sexier clothes and becoming
increasingly flirtatious with everyone but your partner? Some people are
innate attention seekers, but if you’re putting out signals that you’re
interested in a fling and not in a committed relationship, it probably
means you’re looking for something new.
#10 – Apathy
Are you so over it that you don’t even care when your partner
addresses problems in the relationship? Apathy is even more cruel than
yelling sometimes. If your partner’s feelings don’t matter much anymore
or you’re tired of hearing it, you’re not in love.
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